One of the most common questions I receive as a medium is, “How are my loved ones trying to connect with me?” The answers are always beautifully unique—and here’s why: each spirit vibrates uniquely, just as each of us does. While all spirits share similarities in their lighter, non-physical vibration, they each have their own style of reaching out, shaped by a few key factors.
For example, the timing of their transition (whether last week or 20 years ago), their personality (playful or serious, introverted or extroverted), and their interests while they were here (piano playing or a love for baseball) all contribute to their unique energy—and shape the messages they send and how they reach out to us. Every detail contributes to a unique vibration that influences how they connect with you. Based on your own vibration—your distinct personality and energy—they find ways to deliver specific messages tailored just for you.
As you open your heart and mind to your loved ones’ special ways of connecting, here are some ideas to help you tune in to the messages they—and possibly other spirits—may be sharing with you:
• Use Tangible Items as a Bridge: While we don’t need physical items to connect, they can hold our loved one’s energy, making it easier to feel their presence. Try holding something special, like their bracelet, looking at their photo, or keeping a treasured item close. These objects can create a powerful connection—a kind of portal through which they come to us.
• Embrace New Thoughts and Signs: Our loved ones in Spirit love to help us grow, often in unexpected ways. Be open to fresh ideas, new interests, or surprising signs! Perhaps you suddenly feel like taking a cooking class—this nudge could be a message from them. Or if you typically see a cardinal but now notice a blue jay or a heart-shaped cloud, trust that it may be a new sign from them to you. How will you know it’s them? Sometimes it simply feels right—a sign that resonates even if it doesn’t logically add up.
• Open Up to a Wider Circle: We have more loved ones in Spirit than we realize, including great-great-grandparents, spirit guides, angels, and soul family who may not have shared this life with us but remain close by. Try to welcome messages from Spirit in general, rather than expecting only specific loved ones to come through. This openness invites even more love, wisdom, and support from the other side. Being open to the beyond as a collective can give us a nice spiritual stretch, which can also help us better connect with our loved ones in spirit.
• Don’t Worry if You’re Not Getting Signs Right Now: There are many reasons why you may not be seeing signs at the moment. For instance, you may actually be receiving signs without recognizing them, especially if you’re deep in grief. Grief is a necessary part of healing, but its denser energy can make it harder to notice subtle messages. Take time for self-care: soak in a bath, walk in nature, or journal. Caring for yourself can lift your energy, making it easier to connect. It’s also possible that your loved one isn’t sending as many signs at this time, and this could be intentional. You may be in a phase where you’re meant to focus on your own growth, or perhaps they’re attending to things on their end. Don’t worry—Spirit communication is all about quality, not quantity. Trust they’re still there, and continue to nurture the connection by creating rituals and talking to them. You’ll receive exactly what you’re meant to from them, right when you need it—they always ensure that! If there’s something important they want you to know, they’ll find creative and impactful ways to get your attention.
Remember, love is the highest vibration, and the more you love and care for yourself and others, the more open you’ll be to feeling spirit’s presence.
Please remember that I’m here for you if you’d like to connect with your loved one through me. While you don’t need me for this process, receiving messages from someone who can offer a channel between the two of you can be truly special for your journey and your connection together.
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Onwards!
Sincerely,
Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium
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PS – Another beautiful way to connect with your loved ones in Spirit is to write them a letter. There is something sacred about writing—it allows us to enter a trance-like state, and putting pen or pencil to paper amplifies our message. Any time we take a moment to write, our loved ones appreciate it. So grab a pen and your journal, and find a cozy place to write, perhaps with something special that belongs to your loved one nearby.
Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Without judgment, start writing—whether it’s about your day, your dreams, or your fears, just let it all out. When you feel ready, pause and ask them some questions. Write those down—perhaps inquire about what they have been up to or ask about a favorite memory. Allow yourself to feel their response—whether it’s a warm tingle, a song playing in your mind, or a detail from a memory you hadn’t thought of in years. Write it down and trust that it’s them reaching out. Finally, end with a message of love.
