Your Soul Knows Best

My long-time client Harper is navigating a Dark Night of the SoulHi Harper! Thanks for letting me share this beautiful story.

Dark Night of the Soul is a time of deep spiritual depression and awakening. It’s when our ego is being stripped and the world no longer makes sense the way we knew it. We’re on a journey to understand a deeper sense of self and the world. A Dark Night is typically sparked by something unexpected: a medical diagnosis, the loss of a loved one, a ‘rock bottom’ with drugs or friends; but sometimes it comes on gradually, with no clear trigger.

In Harper’s case, her Dark Night came on slowly and then accelerated when she found the courage to leave a toxic long-term relationship. She’s been single for a few months and has been doing deep work on understanding unhealthy trends in her relationships so the patterns won’t continue to follow her. Good job Harper!

To help her along her Dark Night, Harper’s soul has asked for more alone time and isolation than she’s used to. Harper’s typically a high-energy extrovert who is literally the life of the party, so coming to terms with a mellow vibe has been challenging.

While in her Dark Night, one long weekend on Harper’s calendar didn’t feel right: the baby shower of a dear friend who lived across the country. It was three days jam-packed with group activities: kayaking, shopping, dining out. And while this is typically Harper’s speed, now it wasn’t.

Harper adores the mother and father-to-be, but she couldn’t ignore her soul’s voice: Stay home.

Harper knew staying home was right, but she was scared to tell her friend. She didn’t want anyone upset or disappointed in her, and she feared being a topic of gossip.

For weeks Harper thought about ‘what to do’ (even though she knew) and procrastinated with having this conversation with her friend. Her worry brought on headaches and fatigue several times.

When Harper finally found the courage to reach out to her friend, guess what happened?

The friend responded with care, love and empathy; Harper’s worries had been self-created.

But wait…The story gets even better.

Two days after their conversation, Harper received a message from her friend:

“I know you must be really hurting if you’re not joining in on the festivities so I’m here to see you, give you a hug and shower you with love for the next 24 hours. I’ll be at your place in two hours.”

Harper felt so seen and cared for. It was a needed reminder that she is worthy of true unconditional and healthy love. Her friend showing up for her during this shift in life was exactly what Harper needed; an important milestone on her healing journey.

There’s so much we can learn from this story, but here’s what I took away:

  • Worrying and procrastination is unneeded self-sabotage. Be kind to yourself and take action.
  • Your soul always knows best.
  • Honor yourself where you are. You’ll be rewarded for showing yourself grace and kindness.
  • True friends are not only there for you through the good times and hard times, they come and find you (sometimes even go across the country) so they can be there with you.

So now I challenge you. How can you stop procrastinating and take action? How can you honor your soul? How can you be a better friend?

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Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium 

PS – Here’s an affirmation to help you honor where you’re at on your healing journey, “My feelings are real and valid. I’m here to show them love, care and grace.”

PPS – Think about someone who helped you along your healing journey. Grab your pen and paper and jot a note to them. What did they do that helped you? How did they make you feel? As you write, enjoy the feelings this activity evokes: being loved, being accepted, being heard. Use this writing exercise as an opportunity to remember the world is good. If it feels right, consider sending this note of gratitude to the person who helped you.

Language matters

There’s a lot of conversation happening right now on the terms we use to describe people and how we say them. New terms and phrases have been coined. Past terms are being evaluated and labeled as offensive, racist, sexist or other. Good and needed work is being done and I’m grateful for it – but at times it overwhelms me.

I share this openly with you because like me, I know you’re striving to be a good person – you’re out in the world working, staying healthy, being present for your family, and making things happen for the better. On top of all that, perhaps you’re trying to keep up with the economy, your spiritual practice, your kid’s crazy sports schedule, politics, and who knows what else. It’s a lot! And I want you to realize it’s a lot and to not feel bad if you haven’t memorized all the new terms or even learned what the new ones are.

Throughout the wide spectrum of language conversation, my thoughts have ranged from, Wow! I can’t believe I’ve been using this term for so long without fully understanding its impact. I’m changing immediately to, Okay, hold up! Perhaps we’re taking this PC, inclusivity thing a bit too far, to the point where we are creating a division amongst others.

And while I admit I’ve been exhausted at times, I also acknowledge that I am better off for leaning into what I don’t understand, considering the impact my words have and shifting my language as my mind and soul guide me.

For example, up until a few years ago, if someone died by suicide, I said they, ‘committed suicide’. I never thought about my word choice as that phrase had been handed down to me and used regularly by others. But now, thanks to the open language conversations society is having, I realize those words I spoke many times had negative consequences.

By using the word ‘committed’ I was saying the person was culpable, that they performed some crime or sin. And this is far from my belief system. As a psychic medium, I’ve had the honor of connecting with lots of beautiful souls who have crossed over by suicide and they are just as high vibing, loved, and accepted by God as someone who has passed away in what we consider as a more natural or typical way. As a medium, from my direct experience, I know nothing ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ was ‘committed’ when they decided to end their lives; instead, beautiful souls decided to go home in a different way and God was happy to see them.

Shifting my word choice was hard at first. I’d slip up out of habit and say ‘committed’. If I noticed this mistake in the moment, I’d show myself grace and correct it. Over time, saying ‘died by suicide’ became a part of my regular vocabulary (although I do still slip up now and then) and this language change has brought me and others lots of peace.

In short, yes, this language thing can be exhausting, and that’s okay! But just because it’s exhausting, it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t put in the hard work, because it matters. Language matters.

But we also need a balance. Unlearning and re-learning take time and patience. And to be that good person you strive to be, you don’t need to be ‘perfect’. You don’t always need to know the ‘right’ thing to say and how to say it. You can make slip-ups and mistakes. To be good (great in fact), all you need to do is open your heart and try.

I thank you. Humanity thanks you.

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Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium 

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use when you’re overwhelmed with how fast things are moving and changing, ‘I am aware of myself and the world. I trust the timing of my growth and humanity’s.’
 
PPS – Is there a word or term you regularly hear that doesn’t sit well with you? Grab your pen and journal. How does that word or term make you feel? Why does it make you feel that way? What would you like to hear instead? After journaling for several minutes, review what you’ve written and consider sharing it with those who need to hear it or perhaps sharing your message with a greater community. Remember, knowledge is power, and giving your truth is an amazing gift to the world. Also remember, that it’s okay if you aren’t ready to express your truth; these things take time. Regardless of your path, be proud that you invested time in better understanding and processing your feelings.

Financial abundance is yours; Here’s how

With costs rising and the economy uncertain, it’s time for many of us to financially reset. This means honoring where we’re at and making changes accordingly.

Oftentimes, when things financially change (like gas prices hiking or rent going up) we continue to march on like nothing has happened. We protect what we’ve always known and deny our reality. This approach works for a bit – until it doesn’t.

Then suddenly we’re in over our heads and have no choice but to make a fear-based change: I have no choice but to cancel my gym membership, or I won’t be able to make rent this month if I keep eating out.

This leads me to a golden rule when co-creating financial abundance with the Universe: Don’t wait too long to make a shift.

Be so in tune, so in flow and so open to change that you’re making micro changes to your finances and way of life freely without creating negative energy that ‘forces’ you to do something. Once you start feeling things get tighter, accept reality and pivot. Make your coffee at home as opposed to going to Starbucks. Take on a few extra clients even though it’s not how you pictured your summer schedule looking.

Money. Finances. Abundance. It’s all energy, so it’s important to keep that energy high vibing. Afterall, you want the good things flowing your way – like a pay raise or finding a special sale on an item you’ve been eyeing.

So, how do you keep the vibes high? For starters, don’t attach negative vibes to making financial shifts. If you’re going to switch to generic brands to save a few bucks, feel proud about the decision, not mad that you ‘have to do this’. If you cancel your Disney Plus and Netflix accounts to help support your commute costs, instead of sulking about it, get excited about the added time in your life so you can get outside more.

Also, along the lines of ‘it’s all energy’, the Universe doesn’t look at financial health in a silo. Physical health. Spiritual health. Emotional health. That’s all energy too and the higher vibing we are in those areas, the easier it is for Universe to flow abundance our way – in general and yes, financially. Focus on your general well-being and practice gratitude in every area of your life. It all connects.

To help energize your financial abundance even more, here’s a few final ideas to consider. You’ll know which ones are for you. Trust your intuition.

  • Honor what your soul wants you to do: Yup! It may be time for you to leave your toxic job or start that business you’ve dreamed about for years. You’ll be amazed at the abundance that finds you once you start following your heart.
  • Perform a reality check: Review your bank and credit card statements regularly. Create a new budget. Pinpoint where you may have limited beliefs about money. It can feel scary, but this grounded practice will help you. The Universe will meet you where you are and help you vibe higher. I promise.
  • Take action: While thinking, planning and brainstorming certainly serves a purpose, it’s results you’re looking for which means you need to take action. Negotiate a better APR on your credit card. Submit your resume to that job you’ve told yourself is out of your league. Sell the treadmill that’s collecting dust.


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Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium 

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use when you’re overwhelmed with change, ‘I have the power to shift and move with ease and grace. My perception is my reality.’
 
PPS – Whenever you make a step towards financial abundance, grab your pen and journal and capture it! Remember, positive vibes while manifesting financial abundance is a must. To add to the good vibes, read through your weekly accomplishments and give yourself some much needed kudos – and even a splurge! Creating financial abundance doesn’t mean we deprive ourselves, so celebrate by buying those extra nice bath salts or enjoying a dinner out with your best friend.

Say ‘Yes’ to Offers of Help

On Mother’s Day I went to a morning yoga class with a new teacher, Val. She opened the class by offering us all beautiful red roses. As she walked around the room, wishing us Happy Mother’s Day and passing out the thoughtful gift, I sensed Val was emotionally hurting. Her eyes were sunken and the rose stems trembled in her hands.

When Val addressed the class to dedicate her practice to all mothers here and passed on, my suspicions came true; her voice was shaky as she quickly wiped away a few tears.

As the class moved on, Val found her flow which helped us find ours. As we did our downward dogs and forward folds, we all became one, connected by love.

Although Val’s voice was now soothing and steady, I couldn’t quite keep my mind from drifting. I kept receiving intuitive nudges to offer Val a mediumship reading after class. I’d never done that before: go up to someone, inform them I’m a medium and ask if they want a reading. A little out of the ordinary for me, but something told me it would be good for both me and Val.

Through my cat cows and warrior poses, my enthusiasm grew thinking about the unexpected healing I could offer Val on such a sacred day. I hoped she’d say ‘yes’ to my offering so that I could return the favor of her kindness, of the gorgeous roses and her talented yoga teachings.

After our shavasana, I went up to her, introduced myself and asked if she had time for a reading after everyone left.

“Yes” she said, with a few slow tears and a warm smile.

For forty-five minutes or so, I gave Val evidence and healing words from the other side, showing her that her loved ones were always with her. During our time together I was able to pass on much needed ‘I’m sorry’s’ from family members on the other side and provide Val perspective on some heavy decisions she had to make.

At the end of the reading, Val said, “Thank you sincerely. This was such a blessing and the healing I needed. I have never seen a medium before but I asked God to put one in my path. You are a sign from God. And you’ve helped me so much.”

I left the yoga studio filled with pride, purpose and a deeper connection to myself, Val and Spirit.

By Val saying ‘yes’ to my offer to help, she gave me the best present I received that Mother’s Day and I will hold her and our time together in my heart forever.

It’s my hope, the next time someone offers you help, and your first reaction is to say ‘no’ (perhaps because you don’t want to bother someone or appear weak), think about the enormous gift Val gave me by saying ‘yes’ and consider saying ‘yes’ yourself.

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Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium 

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use when you are struggling to accept help, ‘I accept love and support from others as a way of honoring me and them.’
 
PPS – It’s never too late to ask for help. Grab your pen and a journal. What areas of your life do you need more support in? Childcare? Career advice? An ear so you can talk things out with someone? Now that you have a better idea of priorities, start listing people you could go to for help. Consider those you’ve said ‘no’ to in the past. Has this article motivated you to say ‘yes’? Give it a go: write out a plan for how you’ll reach out to them.

It All Works Out

The other day, I wanted to get my nails done, but I wasn’t close to my usual place by work (I knooooow. Big life problems I’m reporting here). So, I had a decision to make.

  • Option 1: Do I go to the nail place about ten minutes from my house? I’ve been there once and they did an okay job but the nail technician wasn’t very friendly.
  • Option 2: Do I try the new place just two minutes down the road?

I wasn’t sure what to do, so I asked my inner-me (i.e., my intuition, my gut, my higher self, whatever you want to call it/they/him/her) what to do and she said, Option 1.

Wait, are you sure? responds my stubborn ego. You weren’t overly happy before and the new place is closer?

I caught myself not honoring my intuition and shut down the doubt. Danielle, go with Option 1.

And so I did.

When I got to the nail salon, they told me it would be a ten-minute wait. Nice work, intuition!

Well…

That 10-minute wait turned to 30, then ended up about 50 minutes. While waiting for my mani/pedi, I oscillated between: Danielle enjoy the you time… Everything happens for a reason… and, Maybe you got that voice in your head wrong… I worked hard to keep my vibes high and to trust the process.

Although I wasn’t overly pleased with the wait, my French manicure and white toes came out amazing! The nail technician was sweet, tucking hints of humor into our conversation every now and then. She was meticulous with her work. It was a fantastic overall experience and well worth my time and money.

As I left the nail salon, my intuition rang back in, Go to the clothing boutique next store. They have the summer shirts you’ve been looking for.

My ego jumped to doubt again (Isn’t it funny…or frustrating… how our minds work?), Remember, you don’t like it there. The last time you were there everything was disorganized and expensive.

I again caught myself and shut down the hesitation. Danielle, you’re going in the store.

Within ten minutes I had six items in my hand. Talk about easy! I tried them on and all but two fit perfectly. The best part? Everything I had was on sale and I spent less than $60. A special treat!

The simple takeaway is, trust your intuition and don’t panic if you perceive that something isn’t working out. Our higher self always knows what’s in our best interest even though there may be a few detours along the way (like a long wait at a nail salon).

I’d love to hear from you. Do you have a similar story? One where your intuitive decision surprised you and turned out beneficial, even though you worried it may not? Send me a note.   
 
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Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium 

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use when you’re feeling uneasy about a situation, “What is meant for me will find me. What is not meant for me will not find me.”

PPS – Find a pen and journal. Think about something happening in your life that you perceive as ‘not good’ (ex: your brother is mad at you or you lost your job). Get creative and write a story about all the ways this situation could work in your favor (ex: you and your brother have the best make-up conversation and decide to celebrate the new and improved sibling relationship by going to Hawaii for 3 weeks, or you end up finding a new part-time job doing exactly what you love making 200k a year). Get dreamy and really allow yourself to feel the good vibes. A couple sentences to a full page will do. Then, write on your paper, ‘I’m using these high vibes to give this situation love’ and trust that although you may not see it, things are working in your favor.

The World Is Heavy: Here’s How I Cope

I originally started this blog post with several examples of what makes the world heavy. I stopped and decided to delete those examples and start this blog again.

Why?

Because you know what makes the world heavy. Especially now. If you’re reading this newsletter, you’re aware of what’s happening. You may be a heart-centered individual, most likely an empath just like me who is seeing and feeling it all. You may be hoping and praying for more love and light to enter our world.  

But sadly, sometimes it can feel like our prayers are unanswered. I’m sure you find yourself feeling baffled, disengaged and hurt at times. I feel the same; humanity is grieving and searching for answers.

Amidst it all, I do a solid job keeping my vibes high and I want the same for you.

Although I have proven techniques that have helped me rise above the muck, they don’t prevent me from sadness, anger or a “What the **** is this all about?” frustration cry to God every now and then.

My techniques have taught me to coexist with the dark and limit its impact on my mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health.

Here’s a few things I do to cope that I invite you to try and make your own:

I maintain a high level of empowerment

There’s a lot I can’t directly control. I’m aware of this and accept this. And despite knowing I can’t fix it all, I maintain my power. If I ever catch myself feeling helpless, I turn those feelings around, fast.

For example, school shootings have weighed on me heavily. I’m not in a position to travel to offer direct support to the grieving families nor can I change a policy or offer a monetary donation that will have a profound on this important cause. Regardless of these limitations, I realize there are many things I can do.

For starters, in honor of those who have lost their lives and all who are impacted, I can live my best life ever. Oftentimes before I go for a walk outside or go to yoga class, I dedicate that practice to those who are suffering. I also choose kindness and a future-focused mindset. I remind myself that I am in control and even though I may not directly impact a certain situation, I can directly impact others. As an example, every time I show someone self-love or teach a class centered on self-love, I may be preventing an act of violence (or at least a nasty conflict at work or home) and that is something – a meaningful contribution.

I remember my purpose

I remind myself regularly that just because I’m living in a time where information is readily available, that doesn’t mean it is for me. I am here to live my life, and to fulfill my purpose. I want to capture the love and learnings from being a mom, wife and spiritual teacher and to continue to grow and evolve mind, body and soul. Keeping my purpose in mind, it’s easier not to:

  • Overly consume the news (as it doesn’t directly connect to my journey)
  • Feel like external events can negatively impact what I want and need to do to fulfil my soul’s journey (there’s that empowerment thing again)

 
I lean into my faith

The Universe has blessed with so much. A beautiful family. My health. My mediumship gifts. Whether I am enjoying the sight of a dolphin popping its head in and out of the ocean or experiencing a perfectly timed sign and synchronicity (you know I love my 438 license plates. Hi Dad!), I am regularly reminded that there is a God and he/she/they are wonderful and magical.

When I feel stuck and start whining that ‘Things don’t make sense’, I lean into the love I feel from God and work to transform my negative vibes to high vibes. I then feel those warm tingles and sit back and think the same thing as before, “Things don’t make sense”, and I begin to shift my perspective. Once I open myself up to the love of the Universe, I can accept I will never fully understand everything (especially the yucky and dark stuff that happens) and that is okay, as I fully trust my God.

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Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium 

PS – As someone who has experienced emotional, physical and sexual trauma all before the age of fifteen, for several years I personally struggled with wondering why ‘bad things’ happened to me and others in the world. Robert Schwartz’s book Your Soul’s Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born has offered me a tremendous amount of insight to help me make sense of my own lived experiences and those happening in the world. Check out his work if it resonates.

PPS – If you haven’t noticed, I’m spicing up the PS and PPS section of this newsletter this week. Do you have a topic idea for a future blog? If so, I’d love to hear from you. Hit reply and send me a note.

Stop Feeling Being Bad About Feeling Good

From time to time, I touch myself for pleasure. I choose to do this for the joy and rejuvenation effects, for the “I love myself and deserve to feel good” vibes. The action isn’t against my religion or belief system, nor does my hubby care one way or another if I touch myself.

But right before I masturbate and right after I finish, I feel guilty. A gnawing “This is wrong” voice and feeling find me. My stomach gets a slight knot and shame washes over me.

So why does something that is meant to refresh and relax me, also give me a yucky feeling?

The other day at the gym, I got closer to uncovering the answer…

I’m a member of Orangetheory Fitness. I regularly attend high intensity workout classes that a trainer leads. On any given day there’s a combination of treadmill, rower and free weight work. The trainer will give me my pace and put together a series of base pace efforts, all out efforts and rests. It’s a tough workout which is exactly why I love it!

After running and climbing hills on the treadmill for half an hour I made my way to the weight floor. I was given three exercises to do until time was called. After each one, I was supposed to rest. But guess what? Even though I was winded, sore and could really use some water, I didn’t rest.

Why didn’t I rest? Because I felt guilty. The gnawing “This is wrong” voice I get when I masturbate found me again every time I paused from an exercise.

This gave me an ah-ha moment. I struggle with allowing myself to feel good. Whether it’s experiencing the full bliss of some special me time, or giving my body a break after lifting, something deep within me associates being good to myself with being bad.

I have important answers I need to search for, like how to create a better relationship with the things that make me feel good. I know where I’ll start, and that’s thanks to doing similar self-work in the past.

Here’s what I’ll focus on now:

  • Reminding myself through reflection, journaling and affirmations that I am a human being not a human doer. Every day I’ll tell myself I’m here to work hard and to relax, have fun and enjoy life.
  • Adding more just for me things into my week so that feeling of being good to myself comes more naturally.
  • Exploring my past to see if I can identify any past experiences or limiting beliefs shared with me that I need to understand, give love to, and let go.

I’m hoping that if you can relate to this blog, you’ll put together a list of things you can focus on too. Life is too short and beautiful for any of us to spend too much time feeling low, overworked and ashamed.

Join me in spreading my messages of breaking judgement habits and strengthening intuition even further: forward this blog to a few family members and friendsThe greater the shares, the greater the impact – They can subscribe here.  

Sincerely,
Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium

PS – ‘Here’s an affirmation to give you a boost of self-love when you’re feeling bad about feeling good, ‘I am worthy of all good things. I give myself unconditional love always.’ 

PPS – If you struggle with putting yourself first or giving yourself some much needed TLC, grab your journal and a pen. Oftentimes, these limiting beliefs stem from our childhood, be it directly or indirectly. Did a magazine or TV show make you feel like it wasn’t okay to do something you wanted to do? Or perhaps that it wasn’t okay to feel a certain way? Did a family member tell you something is bad for you, when it’s actually the opposite? (for example – you wanted a second serving of food because you were still hungry, but your grandma wouldn’t let you eat more because she said you’d gain weight). Write anything that comes to mind. Then light all of these limiting beliefs on fire (or rip them up slowly into small bits) repeating, ‘These limiting words, beliefs and actions are no longer mine to carry’.

I Self-Sabotaged

My sister Kelley came to stay with me a few weeks ago.

Late one night, we fought about parenting stuff – we clearly didn’t agree on how to approach a situation with one of our kiddos. Words were exchanged. It turned into an ugly spat.

I walked away from our exchange hurt. I felt disrespected and undervalued by my sister. I was also ashamed for letting myself walk into an unkempt, fiery version of me. Although I told myself to walk away several times, that the argument was better served with my best self… I didn’t. I stayed for the fight and escalated it.

The next morning, I could still feel the emotions of the spat with me. I went to the bathroom mirror looking for a pimple or blackhead. Having sensitive skin and acne scars from my old picking-and-popping days, I knew to leave the extractions to the estheticians. But it was too tempting… I wanted a distraction.

I leaned toward the mirror and squinted, finally finding a blackhead at the crease of my nose. I dug and squeezed, pressed and pinched until that blackhead was no more.

Ugh Danielle. Don’t do this. You know it’s not good for your skin.

But what did I do?

More picking and squeezing until I finally leaned away from the mirror to witness a face full of red splotches. I looked like Hellboy with chickenpox! Why, Danielle? You know this happens every time!

I knew my face picking would cause more harm than good. I knew I’d end up with inflamed spots around my nose, cheeks and chin. But I did it anyways.

That morning when my sister woke up, we said our “I’m sorry’s”. While there was still awkwardness in the air, the tension dissipated. And as the day progressed and I started feeling better, I regretted my blackhead binging episode even more.

So why did I do it? Why did I self-sabotage?

Several reasons…

  1. Because I was feeling low, and like attracts like. I felt in good company doing a low-vibing task (like messing up my face). And perhaps, without being conscious of it, it was also a way to punish myself for the shame I felt for not holding more grace during Kelley and I’s quarrel.
  2. My self-sabotage was also my own form of escapism. I couldn’t focus on my negative feelings about the fight because I was too busy causing another problem for myself.

I’m aware that I’ve been down this road before and I need to be more careful. I have a long history of self-sabotage; of making a good scenario bad and making a bad scenario worse because I perceive a lack in some way. I’m not good enough, smart enough, caring enough…

If you self-sabotage, there are a few important things I want you to know…

  1. You’re not alone. If you go to the gym and then binge eat before bed. Or if you keep racking up your credit card debt even though you don’t have the means to pay it off. There’s many of us in the same boat and with knowing that, I hope you’re kinder and gentler the next time you hurt yourself.
  2. Spending time in reflection can help you better understand why you hurt yourself and why you add more stress and challenges to yourself. This will help you pinpoint where you need more _______ (fill in the blank. Self-love. Discipline. Healing). Hint: Oftentimes, self-sabotage is a result of unresolved trauma.  
  3. Your awareness can lead to a change in behavior. Knowing your triggers and your self-sabotaging go-to’s (blackhead picking, for instance) will allow you to better cope and create a strategy that ensures your actions stay positive, or at least neutral during hard situations.

The next time I get the urge to pinch and pick, I’ll think of this blog and grab a stress ball, not my face.

Here’s a few articles I found on self-sabotage that may help you (and will definitely help me).


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Sincerely,
Danielle

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use after you self-sabotage, ‘I send love, grace and understanding to my destructive patterns. I can’t change the past, but I will change the future.’

PPS – Grab a pen and your journal. Spend a few minutes thinking about what areas in your life you self-sabotage. Is it with money? Time? Relationships? Health? What’s the one area you want to work on improving now? Next, identify some of your limiting beliefs around the topic at hand which may contribute to your self-destructive patterns. Do you believe it’s not possible to get out of debt? Do you believe you’re not worthy of love? Do you think you’ll be unattractive regardless if you lose the 50lbs or not? Once you have a grasp on your limiting beliefs, write positive affirmations for each of them and use them every day for the next month to build up your internal power and to help retrain your brain.  

If You Have The Chance, Take It

I’m a business professor at a local community college and attended our large faculty meeting a few weeks ago. Our guest speaker was Steve Griggs, CEO of the Tampa Bay Lightning.

Steve kicked off his presentation stating he’d be giving away four tickets to that night’s game against the Boston Bruins.

I perked up in my seat. I love a good Lightning game. I’m from just outside of Boston too, so the matchup was perfect and it’d be a competitive game! And most importantly, I was pumped for this opportunity because just the week before, my husband had been given sixth row seat Lightning tickets but couldn’t go because he was in the hospital.

I pictured the joy these tickets would bring to me and my family, and I whispered to Spirit, ‘Thank you for sharing abundance with me.’

Steve then said he’d give the tickets to the first one who knew where his alma mater Wilfred Laurier University was. And guess what? I knew where it was! Ontario!

But instead of jumping out of my seat and proudly exclaiming the answer, I mouthed it to myself.

I have no idea why I did this. A part of me was spaced out and I think scared to be embarrassed if I was wrong (even though my intuition told me I was right). It was so odd as I wanted the tickets but something in me froze.

Someone else popped up from her chair and loudly blurted, ‘Calgary’.

Steve said, ‘No’.

It was now my shot to speak up and claim those tickets that in some unexplainable way, I already felt were mine.

But…

I stayed frozen. A woman excitedly yelled, ‘Ontario!’

A few seconds later, reality hit me. I hadn’t spoken my truth. I hadn’t claimed what was mine. I was baffled. And upset.

As Steve gave his presentation, the energy within me grew. I had to redeem myself, for myself. I had to show myself that I honored my intuition and that I was worthy of abundance.

At the end of the presentation as Steve exited the stage, I followed him.

When I caught up to him he was signing autographs for a small group of people. When I could, I went up to him and blabbed and blubbered some version of this, ‘I believe in signs and synchronicities… I’m from Boston… I knew the answer… My husband had to give up Lightning tickets because he was in the hospital… I couldn’t let you leave without honoring my intuition…’

Steve (unlike me) was straight to the point, ‘Do you want tickets?’

And I claimed what was mine, ‘Yes, yes I do.’

The next thing I knew, Steve gave me his cell phone # and asked that I text him. Shortly after I had four club seat tickets for the Lightning versus Ducks game that included unlimited food and drinks. I thought this game would be even better than if we saw the Bruins as my hubby had another week to heal.

A week later my family and I went to the game and we had an amazing time (my hubby especially was so appreciative), and the Lightning beat the Ducks in overtime to clinch the playoffs.

Thanks to this experience, I’ve been reminded to:

  • Claim what’s mine
  • Trust my intuition
  • Not worry about what others think

I’ve also remembered that it’s never too late to take action and make something I want happen.

I’m hoping you’ll remember these lessons too.

Join me in spreading my messages of breaking judgement habits and strengthening intuition even further: forward this blog to a few family members and friendsThe greater the shares, the greater the impact – They can subscribe here.  

Sincerely,
Danielle

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use to attract abundance, ‘I attract abundance with ease. I’m a magnet for opportunities to give and receive.’

PPS – For us to receive abundance, we also need to take action towards finding that abundance (after all we are co-creating with the universe). Grab your pen and journal. What areas of your life would you like to see more abundance? Career opportunities? Travel opportunities? Finances? Once you’ve identified a few areas, identify what actions you’re already taking towards your goals (i.e. you’re applying for 10 jobs a week; taking college classes to help drive up your skill level). Give thanks to all you’re doing (positive vibes helps abundance find us). Next, identify new ways you can take action. How can you enhance your mindset on the subject, perhaps becoming more positive and open-minded that what you want is coming your way? How can you learn more in the area you want to experience more abundance? What steps can you take to better position yourself to receive abundance (i.e. if you’re looking for love, make sure you have a plan to be out of the house and more social so you can meet new people). Now make your list a reality.

Signs Are All Around Us

A few days a month I work at a super cute metaphysical shop (if you’re in the Palm Harbor area, come and check us out. I offer psychic and mediumship readings, demonstrations and workshops and would love to have you with us).

One afternoon last month, I overheard a customer say in excitement, ‘On the day my mother Lisa passed away, me and my siblings decided to go out to lunch to reminisce. And guess what? You won’t believe this! The waitress’s name was Lisa!’

The owner smiled. Of course, the owner believed it…

Why? Because she has heard and directly experienced hundreds of similar stories. And I have too. That’s how it is when you’re ‘spiritually linked in’.

My Dad lived in Stoneham, Massachusetts most his life. His telephone prefix (which was also mine as a kid) was 438. After Dad passed away, I’d wake up at 4:38am on the dot and look right at the alarm clock. I also started seeing license plates with 438 on them regularly. Keep in mind I am not an early riser (the hubby will verify) nor had I ever noticed a 438 license plate before.

Hopefully I have you realizing: It’s true. Signs and synchronicities from our loved ones are all around us.

But perhaps you haven’t seen a sign in awhile or perhaps ever? If you haven’t, no worries. Your loved ones are still with you – they are always with you and I can assure you they are trying to get messages to you. You just might need a sign to see the sign – like this blog post.

The #1 thing we can do to be open to receiving signs is shutting down our pesky I don’t know for sure that this is a sign voice. Easier said than done, I know. I’m a medium and at times still experience doubt.

But, there’s hope for us if we stay open and know what we’re looking for.

Here’s a small list (of many) possible ways your loved ones in spirit may be trying to get your attention:

  • Music: If you find yourself thinking of your loved one in spirit and then you turn on the radio and their favorite band is on, this is no coincidence.
  • Animals + Birds: Has a deer been spending extra time in your back lawn? Has a cardinal locked eye with you? Has your pet been out-of-the-ordinary affectionate? That’s your loved one working their energy through other life forces to say hello.
  • Numbers: Out of nowhere are you seeing triple digits? Perhaps 111 or 222? Or maybe you’ve started to see another meaningful number (like your loved ones’ birth year) on license plates, receipts and emails? That’s them working their magic.
  • Odd Objects, Perfectly Placed: If you’re out for a nature walk and come across something that catches your eye: a penny, a red handkerchief (your grandpa always had a handkerchief with him!), a feather…Yup, that’s them too! Or maybe the ring you’ve been looking for mysteriously ends up on your nightstand. You can thank your loved one in spirit for that as well!

Once you receive a sign, send thanks. Our loved ones in spirit appreciate our gratitude and will continue sending us more signs. 

Join me in spreading my messages of breaking judgement habits and strengthening intuition even further: forward this blog to a few family members and friendsThe greater the shares, the greater the impact – They can subscribe here.  

Sincerely,
Danielle

 
PS – The exact time I finished writing this article and saved it was 11:11. Wow spirit is good!

PPS – To help combat doubt about the signs you’re receiving, it can be beneficial to keep a journal. Every day, capture anything and everything that sparks you as unique: A license plate. An email. A song. Be sure to also write about what you were doing and thinking about before and after you received the sign. Every few weeks review your journal notes. Now that you have several signs documented, is it easier to see that they aren’t just coincidences? Are you able to make deeper meaning from your signs, helping to strengthen your belief? For example, do you see a cardinal right before a special family day like your deceased mom’s birthday?  

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