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The stories in our bodies

There’s a saying that I 100% agree with. “The issues are in our tissues.”

This means our emotional, mental and spiritual ailments connect to our body. Simply put, if you’re experiencing something in the body, chances are, there is a deeper meaning for what is happening. If you can pinpoint the root cause, you can work to heal your whole self – mind, body and soul – so full and lasting healing takes place.

For example, I get headaches from time to time. There are moments I know exactly where they come from: I jump into my hot car without rolling down the windows and letting the AC do its thing… I have too much sugar… I have too much caffeine…

On the surface, there doesn’t seem to be a big story there, but if I look at the deeper meaning behind my headaches, it can get boiled down to a lack of patience (I know better than to hop into a car that’s been boiling in the sun) and a lack of self-discipline (I know my sugar and caffeine limits).

Other times I get headaches, there’s not an obvious reason, but when I slow down and reflect, it’s usually my soul’s way of saying, “You’ve been in your head too much… You’ve been overthinking, overworking or both… You need a time out.” When I regularly rest and do something creative, I notice my headaches become less and less frequent.

Here’s another example. I have uneven hips, sciatica and other problems that predominantly show up on the right-side of my body. An injury to my pinky toe when I was a little girl caused me to walk funny and I sit too much (I’m not proud of this one, but I am honest). I’ve had to ask myself, “What are my tissues telling me?”

When I am good about regularly attending yoga, going for walks and eating well, I notice less pain. But here is something interesting: holistically, the left-side of our body represents our feminine energy and the right-side represents our masculine energy. I notice that when I am in my masculine energy too much – spending time being structured, assertive and taking charge – I have more pain than when I am balanced in my masculine and feminine energy; the feminine side being creative and nurturing.

I encourage you to consider the concept of the stories in our bodies and see what insights about yourself you can identify. To assist you, here are a few more body and soul connections:

Is your throat sore or scratchy a lot? It could be pollen and/or it could be your throat telling you that you need to speak your truth more.
Do you have knots in your shoulders? Are they sore? Sure, it could be because of all the computer work you do, but perhaps it could also be your body’s way of telling you that you are carrying many burdens and the weight of the world on you.
In general, are your muscles stiff and tight? It could be that you’re getting older or perhaps it’s your body’s way of saying it wants you to loosen up a bit more – to laugh, to have fun and be open to new experiences.

Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium
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PS – Here’s an affirmation to strengthen your connection with your body, ‘My body is a vessel of love and information. I am always connected to its wisdom.’

PPS – Showing our body gratitude can help it heal. Grab your pen and journal. Write your body a love letter. Take the time to thank it for all that it has offered you. For example, did your body allow you to give birth, complete a 5k or heal from an illness or ailment? What parts of your body are you most grateful for? Your dad’s coffee-brown eyes? Your grandmother’s strong calves? How has your body matured over the years? What parts are you most proud of watching change? What parts have stayed the same? Once you’ve written the love letter to your vessel of love and information, try reading it aloud. Turn your thoughts into spoken words and feel the positive energy surround you.

Never assume…Get curious instead

Sometimes, my hero complex switches on and suddenly I’m in ‘rescuer mode’ trying to ‘save’ someone or ‘fix’ a situation. This heroism takes on many forms…

Recently, my husband Ron came home upset about something that happened at work. After Ron gave me the details, I jumped into a motivational speech of sorts about how he could have handled the situation differently and how he could do it better next time (I’m sure you know where this is going). When I came up for air thirty minutes later, I could see Ron was more distraught than when he got home. I asked Ron what was wrong and he expressed he didn’t need a lecture – all he needed in that moment was an ear. Not my best “donned my cape and answered the call” moment.

Here’s another example:

A few weeks ago while walking around Dunedin, I noticed my son was chatting with a stranger about 15 feet from me. Looking like he felt trapped in the conversation, I interrupted several times, yelling, ‘Come on Aaron, we have to go.’ When my son finally walked over to me, he was annoyed and told me he was having a great chat – the stranger had seen his wrestling shirt and was talking to him about his own wrestling days.

In both of these situations, I had good intentions. I love my boys fiercely and always want what’s best for them – the problem is, I assumed I knew what was best for them instead of getting curious and believing they knew what was best.

Thinking back to both situations, I picture my good intentions landing differently had I not made presumptions and asked a few questions.

Hey babe. It sounds like your day hit you like a ton of bricks…What do you need from me? How can I best support you?

Hi Aaron. Hi Stranger, it’s nice to meet you. What are you guys talking about?

Self-reflection taught me this: I need to recognize where I can soften, where I need to let go a little bit more, and where I need to trust my boys more. However, I’m not judging myself for my actions either. Jumping into “hero mode” is one way I cope with the chaos of my life and the uncontrollables of our world right now.

And so, I’ll continue to Reflect. Let go. Get curious. Shift. Repeat. All while remembering that when I sense a bat signal shining in the sky, to consider my plan before jumping in.

I’m curious. When have you jumped in to save the day – when the day didn’t need saving? Where in your life can you Reflect? Let go? Get curious? Shift? Repeat? I’d love to hear from you. Reply to this email if it calls to you.

Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium
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PS – Here’s an affirmation to help you calm the hero complex within you: ‘I trade judgment for curiosity.’

3 ways to stop self-sabotaging

Procrastinating.

Avoiding.

Using a tone that’s not from our best self, then spending the day feeling guilty about it (I know this one well from my personal experiences. I’m sorry, babe.)

Binging food, medication, alcohol or other… Or trying to be so perfect, we get lost in the minor details and never move onto the next project.

Sound familiar?

This is self-sabotage.

Self-sabotage is when we consciously or unconsciously get in our own way regarding our goals, well-being and overall higher good. The external world didn’t muck up plans, but rather our own internal world did, we did.

We self-sabotage for various reasons: low self-esteem, fear, bad habits, familiarity, and a need to be in control – just to name a few.

Simply put, self-sabotage sucks, but you already know that. My goal is to help you find ways to stop the vicious cycle.

While I can’t claim to no longer fall trap to self-sabotage, I can proudly report I’ve stopped many self-sabotage cycles in my life and I’ve helped hundreds of others do the same. Here’s what I’ve seen work.

Get honest with yourself

This one is hard, painful and scary but so worth it. Your self-sabotage is coming from YOU and before you make a plan forward, you need to acknowledge this. Start by taking a moment for yourself, going inward and reflecting. Then fill in the blanks:

I’m responsible for my words, thoughts and behaviors. I recognize that when I do X, I self-sabotage.
I have a bad habit of X, X and X.
I am scared of X so instead I do X.

Self-sabotage can also be a result of past trauma that has gone unhealed; we develop survival strategies to keep us from further harm. If you think your self-sabotage is coming from a deeper place, seek support through a life coach (remember, yours truly is here to help), therapist or other healer.

Talk + listen to all sides of yourself

Oftentimes, we end up taking an easy win and pooing on what’s best for us because we’re tired or burnt out. This can lead to poor decision-making in the moment. To minimize the chances of self-sabotaging, address the things in your life that are depleting your energy or making you feel emotionally and mentally distant.

You should also embrace your dark side. In those times when we (fill in the blank) – drink too much, shout at someone we love, go silent and detached – it’s a cry for help. That dark side is wanting more of something and it’s rearing its head because it’s not getting it. So rather than letting that dark side take hold of your day, week, year or life – be proactive and find out what that side wants. Typically, if you lean in and embrace your shadow self, you’ll realize there’s not a true ‘dark side’ in there, but rather a wounded inner-child. Ask your inner-child what it wants and then schedule some time for more fun, more chances to express yourself, etc.

Set intentions + reminders

Life is busy. Like really, really busy. It’s so chaotic, so go-go-go that sometimes we can forget who we truly are and what our goals are. This happens because we get sucked up in the noise of our surroundings: news, responsibilities, family drama, etc. To refocus and regain our equilibrium, we need to invest more time in reminding ourselves of our goals. We can do this in a variety of ways. Here are a few suggestions:

Start each morning with an intention ritual. This creates mindfulness and purpose. How this looks is for you to decide. I like waking up, not grabbing my phone first thing, and giving myself a little pep talk: Danielle, be present today. Remember, you are light and love. Get your writing done. And enjoy your writing. Be grateful for your writing gifts.
If you’ve been looking for an excuse to go on a shopping spree, here it is: Buy (or create) things that will remind you of your goals. For example, have you always wanted to go skiing in Colorado but never manage to save enough money because you always spend money on eating out? If so, buy a few Colorado t-shirts to remind you of your true goal. I have a typewriter necklace that reminds me to write.

Join me in spreading my messages of breaking judgment habits and strengthening intuition even further: forward this blog to a few family members and friends. The greater the shares, the greater the impact – They can subscribe here.

Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium
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PS – Here’s an affirmation to use when you want to break free of your self-sabotaging ways, ‘I believe in my worth and my future.’

PPS – Self-awareness is critical to preventing self-sabotage. Grab your pen and journal. When you notice yourself complaining or making excuses about why you can’t get something done, write it in your journal. Over time, you may notice a trend of what your perceived barriers are. Understanding your limiting beliefs can help you overcome them.

Manifesting your New Year’s dreams

Welcome to the New Year bright light.

2023 has a bold and accelerated quality to it. No doubt many people, including you, are looking to turn dreams into reality – but before you set out, let’s focus on approaching your dreams with the best intentions and manifesting methods possible.

The tips below will help you to create or enhance a manifesting rhythm. Incorporating these techniques will provide more ease and potential as you work towards owning the New Year.

Intention setting

When setting an intention, I recommend leaving room for beautiful unexpecteds to flow your way. To do this, don’t get too specific with what you want and when you want it. Instead, give the Universe some space and autonomy to co-create with you and work its magic. Who knows, the Universe may have something even better planned for you than you thought.

Below is an example of how you can give your intention more opportunities for possibility and expansion.

Original intention: “I want to find a boyfriend by March 1^st that meets my criteria of: a non-smoker, spiritually connected, and wanting kids within two years.”

Intention with room for unexpected possibilities: “May a new partner find their way to me in 2023 in perfect timing. May they be a beautiful fit for my soul and share many of the same core values and wants as I do.”

Bonus tip: Phrasing an intention as if it’s already yours and adding a dose of gratitude can up its vibration, giving it more energy to find you and come true. For example:

Intention with gratitude for it already being yours: “Thank you Universe for connecting me to a new partner in 2023. I am grateful that they are a beautiful fit for my soul and share many of my same core values and desires.”

Believe it’s yours

Once you’ve crafted an intention that feels right to you, it’s essential you fully believe you are worthy of receiving your intention. If you are holding doubt, fear, a lack of self-love, or any other low vibing feeling around it, be sure to work on clearing that energy. You don’t want negative energy blocking your flow of positivity.

Here are some ideas on how to clear negative energy: meditation, energy healing sessions, positive affirmations, journaling, therapy sessions, yoga and more. Select what’s right for you.

Focus, focus, focus

When we manifest, we pair our energy with Universal energy to create something and draw it to us. This takes an incredible amount of energy, dedication, and focus. That said, you’ll want to add energy to your intention every day. This will grow your energy, building it bigger and higher so that Universal energy can find you.

To grow your energy “ball” so to speak, I recommend visualization exercises. Investing a few minutes every day meditating, seeing and experiencing yourself living your intention (as an example, picturing yourself on a date with the new boyfriend and really feeling all the feels) can work wonders to bring your dream closer to reality. Creating and looking at vision boards and affirmations is also a good way to give your intention the focus and energy it needs to manifest.

Take action

Until this point, most of our manifesting efforts have been inwardly focused. Let’s chat about external efforts – You have to make a change, take a risk and get yourself out there in support of your dreams. You can take action in a variety of ways depending on what your dreams are.

Wanting to be more active? Join a fitness club or yoga class. Feel like your writing deserves some love? Submit your work to a journal or a writing contest. In the search for a soul mate? Create that dating profile. When taking action, set up a consistent schedule for your efforts so they build momentum — doing something once won’t give your dream enough energy to come true.

Bonus tip: Many people freeze when it comes to taking action because they are afraid of doing the wrong thing. From my experience, doing something, anything that shows yourself and the Universe you are trying is better than nothing. Just because you get rejected or make a mistake doesn’t mean you’re not creating positive energy to get you where you want to be.

If you’re feeling stuck on what you want 2023 to feel like and bring, schedule a 1 x 1 with me. I can psychically connect with your higher self to help uncover what your soul wants more of. I’ve already offered several of these sacred 2023 sessions, which have provided my clients with new considerations, clarity and comfort.

You may also want to check out my recent guest appearance on NBC’s Bloom TV where I sit down with Gayle Guyardo and offer insight on goal setting and staying committed to your goals.

PS – Before we part ways, I’d like to debunk a few manifesting myths:

If I say something out loud once or twice it will come true. This is false. As you can see from the above, manifesting is a process. Do not worry if you’ve ever asked for something that you don’t really want, but remember: if you feed it a lot of energy it will grow and may come true.
If you work hard at manifesting, you’ll always get what you want. This is false. I believe that we will get what we need. We have pieces of our controllable future we can influence (afterall, we have free-will), but that doesn’t mean everything we want is always in our destiny or in the highest good of our souls.
The more time I focus on manifesting, the faster my dreams will come true. This is false. Manifesting is about finding the sweet spot between dedication and trust. Too much time focused on your dreams will more than likely result in obsession, fixation and other lower energies which won’t support your goals. A little time and love go a long way.

Don’t bite the bait

One of the many many things I continue to work on in this lifetime is not ‘biting the bait’ when I feel triggered by someone else’s words or actions.

As my mentor April puts it, I need to be careful about not feeding the story, not getting drawn into others’ drama and emotions, whether it has to do directly with me or not – be it gossip, or people coming to me from a place of fear, lack or judgement. April reminds me, ‘It’s just a moment in time’ and that not everything I see and experience is for me (such good words to live by).

To remove myself from a person or situation that doesn’t serve me, I work hard to keep myself energetically, emotionally and sometimes even physically separated from the person or thing that has me feeling those extra and weighty emotions – be it mad, confused, disheartened, or other.

And while choosing to detach from unnecessary matters is a journey, I’ve made progress. Damn good progress in fact. So much so that I live my life with greater ease and pass down my wisdom in spiritual classes, my writing and in one on ones.

With the emotions of the world so high and things feeling extra chaotic, I want to share some of my practices with you so that you don’t fall into traps or jump onto hooks (my attempt at bait humor) that you should avoid.

Give these a whirl and send me a note after you’ve tried a few.

Energetic separation

Take a relaxing shower or bath using salts (I am a big fan of Epsom salt) and essential oils. While bathing, put out the intention (say it out loud or just think it) that you are dedicating this sacred time to refresh your aura. If you don’t have the time to take a shower or bath, spend a few extra minutes washing your hands, picturing old energy washing away.
Cut energetic cords; energetic cords are the invisible but very real strands of energy that connect us to people, places and things. Unhealthy cords can deplete us and keep us connected to things that don’t serve us, resulting in a host of problems including obsessively thinking about something. There are a variety of ways to cut cords. I visualize an actual cord between me and the person, place or thing and invite Archangel Michael in to literally cut the cord with his sword. It works!
Learning reiki, a Japanese energy-healing practice is an excellent way to support your energetic self.
Physical movement, sun rays, moonlight and sage also work great to cleanse and renew.

Emotional separation

Especially for us empaths, separating our feelings from others is hard. Fortunately, meditation is always a tool available to us. Meditation is one of the best ways to move beyond emotions (someone else’s and our own) to rise above and experience a situation from a high vantage point. If your mind is too active for traditional meditation, no worries. Guided meditations and walking through nature solely focused on the sounds and sensations around you also count as meditation.
Tapping is an ancient acupressure and modern psychology technique that can help us regulate our emotions. In Episode 16 of “Onwards with Dr. Danielle”, my guest Denise Funfar – Integrative Coach and Self-Compassion Mentor – walked me through a brief tapping activity. If you want to check it out, click here and start the video at minute twenty-three.

Physical separation

This one is more obvious, but it’s worth emphasizing: If you can, remove yourself from what’s trying to hook you energetically. Leave a room when your blood is boiling thanks to a rude family member or colleague. Stop stalking your ex on IG – Put the phone down! Change hair stylists if the vibe is toxic. Sit on the other side of the room when you’re watching TV if your partner is in a bad mood.
Be sure to schedule regular ‘physical separation’ breaks into your day, week and year so your body and energy can recalibrate. From time to time, treat yourself to a dinner for one. Take a solo vacation. Go hiking. Give yourself some ‘you’ time.

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use when you need the strength to separate yourself from others’ words, thoughts and feelings, ‘When I let go, I create space for something better.’

PPS – Are you uncertain if an emotion is yours or someone else’s? If so, grab your journal. For the next week, try a 3-step routine:

When you first wake up (before scrolling on your phone or watching the news), journal about how you’re feeling. Are you rested? Are you overwhelmed? Are you feeling gratitude? Get a strong baseline for how you are, separate from the world’s disturbances.
A few times during the day, capture your mood and determine what events, if any, have caused a shift.
Each night, reflect on the shifts in your emotions and what may have caused those changes. Did you show yourself self-love which caused you to feel lighter? Did Jim’s outburst cause you to feel angry when earlier in the day you felt calm?

Once you have a week or so of reflections, see what trends you can identify. Look to understand if you’re the primary one responsible for your emotions or if you let the world predominantly impact how you’re feeling. If you’re allowing external forces to make a big impact on your emotions – it’s time to make some changes and implement some more emotional, energetic and physical separation techniques.

Lean into the energy of Fall

A universal feeling most of us want more of is ease and flow. Wouldn’t you agree?

You probably wouldn’t start an intense cleaning project at 9pm because the late evening hours feel like a time for rest and creative rejuvenation. Fall, Winter, Spring and Summer feel like something too – that feeling is energy – an invitation by Mother Nature to shift.

The energy of a season can give us subtle hints of what we could lean into so that we’re in flow with the Universe – as opposed to feeling like we are swimming against the current, or like we’re trying to force a square peg into a round hole.

Ideally, we want that “go with the grain,” “I’m in the zone” kind of feeling.

When we realize how closely our lives are linked to nature, we start to experience more harmony and oneness with ourselves and the world:

“I go to nature to be soothed and healed, and to put my senses in order.” – John Burroughs Here are some things to consider if you decide you want to lean further into the energy of Autumn and embrace the flow.

Fall is a season of rich color: deep purple leaves, bright red apples, and vibrant orange pumpkins.

How can you bring more color into your life, literally or metaphorically? Here’s a couple ideas:

Replace the outdated pictures in the living room with more colorful photos from a recent trip
Add a pop of color to your wardrobe
Fall could be an invitation to experience more color in general, like an art gallery or museum

Leaves fall in the Fall, after going through a beautiful change process.

What things could you change about yourself this season, and then let fall away?

Perhaps you could be gentler to yourself and release limiting beliefs you’ve been holding?
Maybe it’s time to re-organize your closet and let go of the clothing that no longer gives you joy?
Do you have a habit that’s more harm than good? Set aside time to kick it to the curb.

In Fall, we start to see the Sun less and it gets cooler.

How could you go inwards more?

Perhaps by reinvigorating your meditation practice or starting some reflective journaling?
Maybe scheduling more walks outside? (Psst, leave your phone at home or in your car’s console for an extra dose of solace. Worried about safety? Keep pepper spray on your keychain.)

And how could you begin to change the pace of your life and go a bit slower?

Could you remove social events on your calendar that don’t serve you?
Could you say ‘no’ a little more at work when someone asks you to take on yet another task?

Some of these ideas may click with you, and others not. To help you get a better sense of direction you could go, here are some shifts I’ve been personally making to honor the energy Fall has to offer:

I’ve been working on letting go and cutting back. I’ve canceled commitments that no longer feel right. I’m not buying and consuming as much food, giving me a deeper sense of gratitude for all I have.
To give myself more sacred time, I’ve been reading. Instead of grabbing my phone first thing in the morning and right before bed, the last few weeks I’ve been regularly enjoying the book Dreamland by Nicholas Sparks.
I’ve been making it a point to go out to go for a walk early in the AM or late at night so I can experience the magnificent weather change Mother Nature has brought.

Send me a note and tell me what Autumn shifts you’ve made or plan to make. I’d love to hear from you.

Join me in spreading my messages of breaking judgment habits and strengthening intuition even further: forward this blog to a few family members and friends. The greater the shares, the greater the impact – They can subscribe here.

Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium

PS – Here’s an affirmation to help you stay grounded as you find your ease: “I embrace change and will give myself grace through this period of transition in my life.”

PPS – Still not sure where or how to find your flow in this season? Grab a pen and journal. Sometimes change doesn’t happen right away… sometimes we need to commit to a habit or lifestyle shift to see change over time. What’s something you can commit to, maybe daily or weekly, that can create positive change for you? Write down a list. Maybe it’s putting $50 more into your retirement monthly. Or 10 minutes of stretching a day to help with your everyday movements (squatting to pick up toys? Check!). Try to write down at least three ideas, then choose one. See how long you can commit! I’m rooting for you.

Life is hard

The last few months have been hard.

I was sick twice from overworking myself. When will I learn?

I got into an altercation with my boss. This one absolutely sucked as it triggered a lot of self-worth and validation issues within me.

My family and I evacuated for Hurricane Ian as we were supposed to be a direct hit. Fortunately, we are now at home safe and settled, but nonetheless, we were stressed for several days and our regular rhythm was broken.

And I’ve just felt off and a bit lost, physically and mentally. The hardest part about this is I haven’t been able to put my finger on exactly why. I’ve let my workout routine slip. I’ve found myself falling down mental rabbit holes. I’m not as happy about things that usually make me happy.

Life is hard.

Fortunately, when I was feeling at my lowest, I had beautiful friends to lean on who held space for me and shared their hard with me too, making me feel less alone.

One friend who didn’t know I’d had a rough few weeks reached out and asked if we could talk. When we did, she shared she had been having suicidal thoughts. Her vulnerability and trust in me gave me deep healing. It also gave me perspective: I wasn’t as lost as I had been telling myself. We had a beautiful open chat, and by the end of it, we both went our ways feeling lighter.

A few days later, when I texted a different friend and told her I was struggling, she said ‘me too’ and divulged she was having a ‘survival week’ (I love that phrase!) and that she was coping by smoking a butt and having a Dairy Queen ice cream in her car to escape home life for a while. This image made me chuckle, and again I was reminded that I wasn’t as alone as I felt: life can have its moments of hard for all of us.

I’m writing today to be that friend I had when I was feeling low.

Please remember, you are not alone.

Talk about your hard. Ask others to talk about their hard. Surround yourself with a balanced view of the world, the good and bad, the light and dark.

Join me in spreading my messages of breaking judgment habits and strengthening intuition even further: forward this blog to a few family members and friends. The greater the shares, the greater the impact – They can subscribe here.

Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use when you’re navigating a hard time, ‘I am safe, understood and supported. I trust all things will unfold in perfect timing.’

PPS – Sometimes when we’re feeling low, we forget there is beauty, hope, and positives all around us. Grab your pen and paper. Write ten things that are ‘good’ about life or specifically your life. This could be something you’re grateful for or something that makes you happy or proud. For example: Your daughter kisses you good morning every day. You have an upcoming date on the calendar you’re excited about. You just received a promotion and you’re feeling ready to manage a team. Now that you’ve written your list, place your hand on your heart as you read your list out loud, so that you feel the positive vibes your list has to offer.

Here’s that energy boost you’ve been looking for

“I want more energy” is something I hear frequently from my intuitive life coaching clients.

My lawyer client wants more time to work on his music side project, or a burnt-out project manager and mother of three needs help finding her zest again as she can’t find the spark to do anything besides binge-watch Netflix when she gets home.

While my advice is always tailored specifically to the person and situation, there are nuggets of wisdom that apply to many. I want to share some with you today because I care about you, and I want you to experience a new level of vigor so you can find growth toward the best version of yourself. Some of these wisdom nuggets may even help you achieve some of your wildest dreams.

Here’s a few tips to consider when working to increase your energy:

Change your framing

If our words and thoughts come from a place of lack, we’ll feel a sense of absence which drains our energy. That’s why it’s so important to make sure our words and thoughts vibe from a place of abundance, as an abundance mindset gives us an energy boost.

With this being said, be careful about using phrases such as, “I’m too busy,” or “I never have enough time,” and instead come from a place of having everything you need. You can acknowledge your abundance with word shifts such as, “My plate is full and I’m grateful,” and “I have enough time to make sure the right things get done.”

Say ‘yes’ to joy and ‘no’ to the other stuff

How often do we settle? We go to a subpar restaurant because it’s convenient. We listen to our brother vent about his life for the fifth time this week because ‘it’s the right thing to do.’ We watch a movie with our family that we could care less about but do it anyway to make everyone else happy.

Any activity that doesn’t give us joy is taking us away from our natural state of being: love, joy and happiness. Knowing this, it’s critical that we say “no” as much as possible to the things that aren’t in line with our true selves. Declining things that don’t give us joy will give us more fulfillment and meaning in our lives… and that means more sustained energy for you!

Simplify. Simplify. Simplify.

Being overly stimulated fries our brains. If we want more energy, we need less choices, less information coming to us and less chaos. Oftentimes, it’s all the perceived ‘little things’ in life that are thrown to us over and over again that zap our energy. Some ways you can take control and rejuvenate? Simplify your wardrobe; meal prep; organize your house, car and office; kick your toxic partner and friends to the curb; and limit the amount of screen time you use.

Get healthy

We need to do the hard work of keeping mind, body and soul healthy so we can experience the level of stamina and spark we’re looking for. There are no shortcuts around this. Regardless of what other shifts we make, we won’t feel or keep an energy boost long if we aren’t healthy. This means: healing past wounds, controlling stress, moving our bodies, eating nutritiously, drinking more water and honoring our souls.

The key here is showing up consistently. A gym day here or there or a meditation once every few months is not going to have lasting effects. We need to get honest with ourselves about what changes we need to make in life, and we need to commit to making those happen.

Join me in spreading my messages of breaking judgement habits and strengthening intuition even further: forward this blog to a few family members and friends. The greater the shares, the greater the impact – They can subscribe here.

Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use when you need an energy boost, “I invite positive and vibrant energy into my being. I am aware, alert and excited for the moment I am about to create.”

PPS – Sometimes when we’re lacking energy, it’s our soul’s way of telling us it’s not as inspired as it could be. Grab your pen and a journal. What do you believe is your life purpose? Is it to make people laugh or to inspire people? Is it to help create a better tomorrow through your advocacy work? If you’re not sure of what your life’s purpose is, that’s okay. Just consider it. What are you good at that energizes you? That right there can teach you a lot about why you’re here. Once you create a deeper connection with your life purpose, brainstorm ideas about how you could honor your life purpose more. Could you spend more time volunteering? Could you start that podcast you’ve been putting off?

Language matters

There’s a lot of conversation happening right now on the terms we use to describe people and how we say them. New terms and phrases have been coined. Past terms are being evaluated and labeled as offensive, racist, sexist or other. Good and needed work is being done and I’m grateful for it – but at times it overwhelms me.

I share this openly with you because like me, I know you’re striving to be a good person – you’re out in the world working, staying healthy, being present for your family, and making things happen for the better. On top of all that, perhaps you’re trying to keep up with the economy, your spiritual practice, your kid’s crazy sports schedule, politics, and who knows what else. It’s a lot! And I want you to realize it’s a lot and to not feel bad if you haven’t memorized all the new terms or even learned what the new ones are.

Throughout the wide spectrum of language conversation, my thoughts have ranged from, Wow! I can’t believe I’ve been using this term for so long without fully understanding its impact. I’m changing immediately to, Okay, hold up! Perhaps we’re taking this PC, inclusivity thing a bit too far, to the point where we are creating a division amongst others.

And while I admit I’ve been exhausted at times, I also acknowledge that I am better off for leaning into what I don’t understand, considering the impact my words have and shifting my language as my mind and soul guide me.

For example, up until a few years ago, if someone died by suicide, I said they, ‘committed suicide’. I never thought about my word choice as that phrase had been handed down to me and used regularly by others. But now, thanks to the open language conversations society is having, I realize those words I spoke many times had negative consequences.

By using the word ‘committed’ I was saying the person was culpable, that they performed some crime or sin. And this is far from my belief system. As a psychic medium, I’ve had the honor of connecting with lots of beautiful souls who have crossed over by suicide and they are just as high vibing, loved, and accepted by God as someone who has passed away in what we consider as a more natural or typical way. As a medium, from my direct experience, I know nothing ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ was ‘committed’ when they decided to end their lives; instead, beautiful souls decided to go home in a different way and God was happy to see them.

Shifting my word choice was hard at first. I’d slip up out of habit and say ‘committed’. If I noticed this mistake in the moment, I’d show myself grace and correct it. Over time, saying ‘died by suicide’ became a part of my regular vocabulary (although I do still slip up now and then) and this language change has brought me and others lots of peace.

In short, yes, this language thing can be exhausting, and that’s okay! But just because it’s exhausting, it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t put in the hard work, because it matters. Language matters.

But we also need a balance. Unlearning and re-learning take time and patience. And to be that good person you strive to be, you don’t need to be ‘perfect’. You don’t always need to know the ‘right’ thing to say and how to say it. You can make slip-ups and mistakes. To be good (great in fact), all you need to do is open your heart and try.

I thank you. Humanity thanks you.

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Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use when you’re overwhelmed with how fast things are moving and changing, ‘I am aware of myself and the world. I trust the timing of my growth and humanity’s.’

PPS – Is there a word or term you regularly hear that doesn’t sit well with you? Grab your pen and journal. How does that word or term make you feel? Why does it make you feel that way? What would you like to hear instead? After journaling for several minutes, review what you’ve written and consider sharing it with those who need to hear it or perhaps sharing your message with a greater community. Remember, knowledge is power, and giving your truth is an amazing gift to the world. Also remember, that it’s okay if you aren’t ready to express your truth; these things take time. Regardless of your path, be proud that you invested time in better understanding and processing your feelings.

Financial abundance is yours; here’s how

With costs rising and the economy uncertain, it’s time for many of us to financially reset. This means honoring where we’re at and making changes accordingly.

Oftentimes, when things financially change (like gas prices hiking or rent going up) we continue to march on like nothing has happened. We protect what we’ve always known and deny our reality. This approach works for a bit – until it doesn’t.

Then suddenly we’re in over our heads and have no choice but to make a fear-based change: I have no choice but to cancel my gym membership, or I won’t be able to make rent this month if I keep eating out.

This leads me to a golden rule when co-creating financial abundance with the Universe: Don’t wait too long to make a shift.

Be so in tune, so in flow and so open to change that you’re making micro changes to your finances and way of life freely without creating negative energy that ‘forces’ you to do something. Once you start feeling things get tighter, accept reality and pivot. Make your coffee at home as opposed to going to Starbucks. Take on a few extra clients even though it’s not how you pictured your summer schedule looking.

Money. Finances. Abundance. It’s all energy, so it’s important to keep that energy high vibing. Afterall, you want the good things flowing your way – like a pay raise or finding a special sale on an item you’ve been eyeing.

So, how do you keep the vibes high? For starters, don’t attach negative vibes to making financial shifts. If you’re going to switch to generic brands to save a few bucks, feel proud about the decision, not mad that you ‘have to do this’. If you cancel your Disney Plus and Netflix accounts to help support your commute costs, instead of sulking about it, get excited about the added time in your life so you can get outside more.

Also, along the lines of ‘it’s all energy’, the Universe doesn’t look at financial health in a silo. Physical health. Spiritual health. Emotional health. That’s all energy too and the higher vibing we are in those areas, the easier it is for Universe to flow abundance our way – in general and yes, financially. Focus on your general well-being and practice gratitude in every area of your life. It all connects.

To help energize your financial abundance even more, here’s a few final ideas to consider. You’ll know which ones are for you. Trust your intuition.

Honor what your soul wants you to do: Yup! It may be time for you to leave your toxic job or start that business you’ve dreamed about for years. You’ll be amazed at the abundance that finds you once you start following your heart.
Perform a reality check: Review your bank and credit card statements regularly. Create a new budget. Pinpoint where you may have limited beliefs about money. It can feel scary, but this grounded practice will help you. The Universe will meet you where you are and help you vibe higher. I promise.
Take action: While thinking, planning and brainstorming certainly serves a purpose, it’s results you’re looking for which means you need to take action. Negotiate a better APR on your credit card. Submit your resume to that job you’ve told yourself is out of your league. Sell the treadmill that’s collecting dust.

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use when you’re overwhelmed with change, ‘I have the power to shift and move with ease and grace. My perception is my reality.’

PPS – Whenever you make a step towards financial abundance, grab your pen and journal and capture it! Remember, positive vibes while manifesting financial abundance is a must. To add to the good vibes, read through your weekly accomplishments and give yourself some much needed kudos – and even a splurge! Creating financial abundance doesn’t mean we deprive ourselves, so celebrate by buying those extra nice bath salts or enjoying a dinner out with your best friend.

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