Language matters

There’s a lot of conversation happening right now on the terms we use to describe people and how we say them. New terms and phrases have been coined. Past terms are being evaluated and labeled as offensive, racist, sexist or other. Good and needed work is being done and I’m grateful for it – but at times it overwhelms me.

I share this openly with you because like me, I know you’re striving to be a good person – you’re out in the world working, staying healthy, being present for your family, and making things happen for the better. On top of all that, perhaps you’re trying to keep up with the economy, your spiritual practice, your kid’s crazy sports schedule, politics, and who knows what else. It’s a lot! And I want you to realize it’s a lot and to not feel bad if you haven’t memorized all the new terms or even learned what the new ones are.

Throughout the wide spectrum of language conversation, my thoughts have ranged from, Wow! I can’t believe I’ve been using this term for so long without fully understanding its impact. I’m changing immediately to, Okay, hold up! Perhaps we’re taking this PC, inclusivity thing a bit too far, to the point where we are creating a division amongst others.

And while I admit I’ve been exhausted at times, I also acknowledge that I am better off for leaning into what I don’t understand, considering the impact my words have and shifting my language as my mind and soul guide me.

For example, up until a few years ago, if someone died by suicide, I said they, ‘committed suicide’. I never thought about my word choice as that phrase had been handed down to me and used regularly by others. But now, thanks to the open language conversations society is having, I realize those words I spoke many times had negative consequences.

By using the word ‘committed’ I was saying the person was culpable, that they performed some crime or sin. And this is far from my belief system. As a psychic medium, I’ve had the honor of connecting with lots of beautiful souls who have crossed over by suicide and they are just as high vibing, loved, and accepted by God as someone who has passed away in what we consider as a more natural or typical way. As a medium, from my direct experience, I know nothing ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ was ‘committed’ when they decided to end their lives; instead, beautiful souls decided to go home in a different way and God was happy to see them.

Shifting my word choice was hard at first. I’d slip up out of habit and say ‘committed’. If I noticed this mistake in the moment, I’d show myself grace and correct it. Over time, saying ‘died by suicide’ became a part of my regular vocabulary (although I do still slip up now and then) and this language change has brought me and others lots of peace.

In short, yes, this language thing can be exhausting, and that’s okay! But just because it’s exhausting, it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t put in the hard work, because it matters. Language matters.

But we also need a balance. Unlearning and re-learning take time and patience. And to be that good person you strive to be, you don’t need to be ‘perfect’. You don’t always need to know the ‘right’ thing to say and how to say it. You can make slip-ups and mistakes. To be good (great in fact), all you need to do is open your heart and try.

I thank you. Humanity thanks you.

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Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium 

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use when you’re overwhelmed with how fast things are moving and changing, ‘I am aware of myself and the world. I trust the timing of my growth and humanity’s.’
 
PPS – Is there a word or term you regularly hear that doesn’t sit well with you? Grab your pen and journal. How does that word or term make you feel? Why does it make you feel that way? What would you like to hear instead? After journaling for several minutes, review what you’ve written and consider sharing it with those who need to hear it or perhaps sharing your message with a greater community. Remember, knowledge is power, and giving your truth is an amazing gift to the world. Also remember, that it’s okay if you aren’t ready to express your truth; these things take time. Regardless of your path, be proud that you invested time in better understanding and processing your feelings.

Financial abundance is yours; Here’s how

With costs rising and the economy uncertain, it’s time for many of us to financially reset. This means honoring where we’re at and making changes accordingly.

Oftentimes, when things financially change (like gas prices hiking or rent going up) we continue to march on like nothing has happened. We protect what we’ve always known and deny our reality. This approach works for a bit – until it doesn’t.

Then suddenly we’re in over our heads and have no choice but to make a fear-based change: I have no choice but to cancel my gym membership, or I won’t be able to make rent this month if I keep eating out.

This leads me to a golden rule when co-creating financial abundance with the Universe: Don’t wait too long to make a shift.

Be so in tune, so in flow and so open to change that you’re making micro changes to your finances and way of life freely without creating negative energy that ‘forces’ you to do something. Once you start feeling things get tighter, accept reality and pivot. Make your coffee at home as opposed to going to Starbucks. Take on a few extra clients even though it’s not how you pictured your summer schedule looking.

Money. Finances. Abundance. It’s all energy, so it’s important to keep that energy high vibing. Afterall, you want the good things flowing your way – like a pay raise or finding a special sale on an item you’ve been eyeing.

So, how do you keep the vibes high? For starters, don’t attach negative vibes to making financial shifts. If you’re going to switch to generic brands to save a few bucks, feel proud about the decision, not mad that you ‘have to do this’. If you cancel your Disney Plus and Netflix accounts to help support your commute costs, instead of sulking about it, get excited about the added time in your life so you can get outside more.

Also, along the lines of ‘it’s all energy’, the Universe doesn’t look at financial health in a silo. Physical health. Spiritual health. Emotional health. That’s all energy too and the higher vibing we are in those areas, the easier it is for Universe to flow abundance our way – in general and yes, financially. Focus on your general well-being and practice gratitude in every area of your life. It all connects.

To help energize your financial abundance even more, here’s a few final ideas to consider. You’ll know which ones are for you. Trust your intuition.

  • Honor what your soul wants you to do: Yup! It may be time for you to leave your toxic job or start that business you’ve dreamed about for years. You’ll be amazed at the abundance that finds you once you start following your heart.
  • Perform a reality check: Review your bank and credit card statements regularly. Create a new budget. Pinpoint where you may have limited beliefs about money. It can feel scary, but this grounded practice will help you. The Universe will meet you where you are and help you vibe higher. I promise.
  • Take action: While thinking, planning and brainstorming certainly serves a purpose, it’s results you’re looking for which means you need to take action. Negotiate a better APR on your credit card. Submit your resume to that job you’ve told yourself is out of your league. Sell the treadmill that’s collecting dust.


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Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium 

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use when you’re overwhelmed with change, ‘I have the power to shift and move with ease and grace. My perception is my reality.’
 
PPS – Whenever you make a step towards financial abundance, grab your pen and journal and capture it! Remember, positive vibes while manifesting financial abundance is a must. To add to the good vibes, read through your weekly accomplishments and give yourself some much needed kudos – and even a splurge! Creating financial abundance doesn’t mean we deprive ourselves, so celebrate by buying those extra nice bath salts or enjoying a dinner out with your best friend.

Say ‘Yes’ to Offers of Help

On Mother’s Day I went to a morning yoga class with a new teacher, Val. She opened the class by offering us all beautiful red roses. As she walked around the room, wishing us Happy Mother’s Day and passing out the thoughtful gift, I sensed Val was emotionally hurting. Her eyes were sunken and the rose stems trembled in her hands.

When Val addressed the class to dedicate her practice to all mothers here and passed on, my suspicions came true; her voice was shaky as she quickly wiped away a few tears.

As the class moved on, Val found her flow which helped us find ours. As we did our downward dogs and forward folds, we all became one, connected by love.

Although Val’s voice was now soothing and steady, I couldn’t quite keep my mind from drifting. I kept receiving intuitive nudges to offer Val a mediumship reading after class. I’d never done that before: go up to someone, inform them I’m a medium and ask if they want a reading. A little out of the ordinary for me, but something told me it would be good for both me and Val.

Through my cat cows and warrior poses, my enthusiasm grew thinking about the unexpected healing I could offer Val on such a sacred day. I hoped she’d say ‘yes’ to my offering so that I could return the favor of her kindness, of the gorgeous roses and her talented yoga teachings.

After our shavasana, I went up to her, introduced myself and asked if she had time for a reading after everyone left.

“Yes” she said, with a few slow tears and a warm smile.

For forty-five minutes or so, I gave Val evidence and healing words from the other side, showing her that her loved ones were always with her. During our time together I was able to pass on much needed ‘I’m sorry’s’ from family members on the other side and provide Val perspective on some heavy decisions she had to make.

At the end of the reading, Val said, “Thank you sincerely. This was such a blessing and the healing I needed. I have never seen a medium before but I asked God to put one in my path. You are a sign from God. And you’ve helped me so much.”

I left the yoga studio filled with pride, purpose and a deeper connection to myself, Val and Spirit.

By Val saying ‘yes’ to my offer to help, she gave me the best present I received that Mother’s Day and I will hold her and our time together in my heart forever.

It’s my hope, the next time someone offers you help, and your first reaction is to say ‘no’ (perhaps because you don’t want to bother someone or appear weak), think about the enormous gift Val gave me by saying ‘yes’ and consider saying ‘yes’ yourself.

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Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium 

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use when you are struggling to accept help, ‘I accept love and support from others as a way of honoring me and them.’
 
PPS – It’s never too late to ask for help. Grab your pen and a journal. What areas of your life do you need more support in? Childcare? Career advice? An ear so you can talk things out with someone? Now that you have a better idea of priorities, start listing people you could go to for help. Consider those you’ve said ‘no’ to in the past. Has this article motivated you to say ‘yes’? Give it a go: write out a plan for how you’ll reach out to them.

The World Is Heavy: Here’s How I Cope

I originally started this blog post with several examples of what makes the world heavy. I stopped and decided to delete those examples and start this blog again.

Why?

Because you know what makes the world heavy. Especially now. If you’re reading this newsletter, you’re aware of what’s happening. You may be a heart-centered individual, most likely an empath just like me who is seeing and feeling it all. You may be hoping and praying for more love and light to enter our world.  

But sadly, sometimes it can feel like our prayers are unanswered. I’m sure you find yourself feeling baffled, disengaged and hurt at times. I feel the same; humanity is grieving and searching for answers.

Amidst it all, I do a solid job keeping my vibes high and I want the same for you.

Although I have proven techniques that have helped me rise above the muck, they don’t prevent me from sadness, anger or a “What the **** is this all about?” frustration cry to God every now and then.

My techniques have taught me to coexist with the dark and limit its impact on my mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health.

Here’s a few things I do to cope that I invite you to try and make your own:

I maintain a high level of empowerment

There’s a lot I can’t directly control. I’m aware of this and accept this. And despite knowing I can’t fix it all, I maintain my power. If I ever catch myself feeling helpless, I turn those feelings around, fast.

For example, school shootings have weighed on me heavily. I’m not in a position to travel to offer direct support to the grieving families nor can I change a policy or offer a monetary donation that will have a profound on this important cause. Regardless of these limitations, I realize there are many things I can do.

For starters, in honor of those who have lost their lives and all who are impacted, I can live my best life ever. Oftentimes before I go for a walk outside or go to yoga class, I dedicate that practice to those who are suffering. I also choose kindness and a future-focused mindset. I remind myself that I am in control and even though I may not directly impact a certain situation, I can directly impact others. As an example, every time I show someone self-love or teach a class centered on self-love, I may be preventing an act of violence (or at least a nasty conflict at work or home) and that is something – a meaningful contribution.

I remember my purpose

I remind myself regularly that just because I’m living in a time where information is readily available, that doesn’t mean it is for me. I am here to live my life, and to fulfill my purpose. I want to capture the love and learnings from being a mom, wife and spiritual teacher and to continue to grow and evolve mind, body and soul. Keeping my purpose in mind, it’s easier not to:

  • Overly consume the news (as it doesn’t directly connect to my journey)
  • Feel like external events can negatively impact what I want and need to do to fulfil my soul’s journey (there’s that empowerment thing again)

 
I lean into my faith

The Universe has blessed with so much. A beautiful family. My health. My mediumship gifts. Whether I am enjoying the sight of a dolphin popping its head in and out of the ocean or experiencing a perfectly timed sign and synchronicity (you know I love my 438 license plates. Hi Dad!), I am regularly reminded that there is a God and he/she/they are wonderful and magical.

When I feel stuck and start whining that ‘Things don’t make sense’, I lean into the love I feel from God and work to transform my negative vibes to high vibes. I then feel those warm tingles and sit back and think the same thing as before, “Things don’t make sense”, and I begin to shift my perspective. Once I open myself up to the love of the Universe, I can accept I will never fully understand everything (especially the yucky and dark stuff that happens) and that is okay, as I fully trust my God.

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Sincerely,

Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium 

PS – As someone who has experienced emotional, physical and sexual trauma all before the age of fifteen, for several years I personally struggled with wondering why ‘bad things’ happened to me and others in the world. Robert Schwartz’s book Your Soul’s Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born has offered me a tremendous amount of insight to help me make sense of my own lived experiences and those happening in the world. Check out his work if it resonates.

PPS – If you haven’t noticed, I’m spicing up the PS and PPS section of this newsletter this week. Do you have a topic idea for a future blog? If so, I’d love to hear from you. Hit reply and send me a note.

If You Have The Chance, Take It

I’m a business professor at a local community college and attended our large faculty meeting a few weeks ago. Our guest speaker was Steve Griggs, CEO of the Tampa Bay Lightning.

Steve kicked off his presentation stating he’d be giving away four tickets to that night’s game against the Boston Bruins.

I perked up in my seat. I love a good Lightning game. I’m from just outside of Boston too, so the matchup was perfect and it’d be a competitive game! And most importantly, I was pumped for this opportunity because just the week before, my husband had been given sixth row seat Lightning tickets but couldn’t go because he was in the hospital.

I pictured the joy these tickets would bring to me and my family, and I whispered to Spirit, ‘Thank you for sharing abundance with me.’

Steve then said he’d give the tickets to the first one who knew where his alma mater Wilfred Laurier University was. And guess what? I knew where it was! Ontario!

But instead of jumping out of my seat and proudly exclaiming the answer, I mouthed it to myself.

I have no idea why I did this. A part of me was spaced out and I think scared to be embarrassed if I was wrong (even though my intuition told me I was right). It was so odd as I wanted the tickets but something in me froze.

Someone else popped up from her chair and loudly blurted, ‘Calgary’.

Steve said, ‘No’.

It was now my shot to speak up and claim those tickets that in some unexplainable way, I already felt were mine.

But…

I stayed frozen. A woman excitedly yelled, ‘Ontario!’

A few seconds later, reality hit me. I hadn’t spoken my truth. I hadn’t claimed what was mine. I was baffled. And upset.

As Steve gave his presentation, the energy within me grew. I had to redeem myself, for myself. I had to show myself that I honored my intuition and that I was worthy of abundance.

At the end of the presentation as Steve exited the stage, I followed him.

When I caught up to him he was signing autographs for a small group of people. When I could, I went up to him and blabbed and blubbered some version of this, ‘I believe in signs and synchronicities… I’m from Boston… I knew the answer… My husband had to give up Lightning tickets because he was in the hospital… I couldn’t let you leave without honoring my intuition…’

Steve (unlike me) was straight to the point, ‘Do you want tickets?’

And I claimed what was mine, ‘Yes, yes I do.’

The next thing I knew, Steve gave me his cell phone # and asked that I text him. Shortly after I had four club seat tickets for the Lightning versus Ducks game that included unlimited food and drinks. I thought this game would be even better than if we saw the Bruins as my hubby had another week to heal.

A week later my family and I went to the game and we had an amazing time (my hubby especially was so appreciative), and the Lightning beat the Ducks in overtime to clinch the playoffs.

Thanks to this experience, I’ve been reminded to:

  • Claim what’s mine
  • Trust my intuition
  • Not worry about what others think

I’ve also remembered that it’s never too late to take action and make something I want happen.

I’m hoping you’ll remember these lessons too.

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Sincerely,
Danielle

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use to attract abundance, ‘I attract abundance with ease. I’m a magnet for opportunities to give and receive.’

PPS – For us to receive abundance, we also need to take action towards finding that abundance (after all we are co-creating with the universe). Grab your pen and journal. What areas of your life would you like to see more abundance? Career opportunities? Travel opportunities? Finances? Once you’ve identified a few areas, identify what actions you’re already taking towards your goals (i.e. you’re applying for 10 jobs a week; taking college classes to help drive up your skill level). Give thanks to all you’re doing (positive vibes helps abundance find us). Next, identify new ways you can take action. How can you enhance your mindset on the subject, perhaps becoming more positive and open-minded that what you want is coming your way? How can you learn more in the area you want to experience more abundance? What steps can you take to better position yourself to receive abundance (i.e. if you’re looking for love, make sure you have a plan to be out of the house and more social so you can meet new people). Now make your list a reality.

I’ve Been Talking To My Pinky Toe

We’re starting this blog with a flashback. Picture this: It’s around noon on a weekend, I’m maybe seven years old, and it’s time for lunch. I march down to the cellar – barefooted – to snag a glass bottle of apple juice for lunchtime. Apple juice secured. As I turn back toward the stairs, I slip and the glass bottle falls, shattering everywhere. One of the glass chards cuts through my pinky toe so bad that I lose feeling in it permanently.

Fast forward: I’m adjusting to crutches jammed into my armpits for months, and I’m basically learning how to walk againNo fun!

And now: Ever since that incident, I haven’t been able to move my pinky toe. And while the pinky toe may be the smallest, it’s actually one of the most crucial toes in helping us maintain our balance.

Over the years, I’ve experienced more and more problems with my equilibrium. My hip issues and the way I teeter while I walk are thanks to my lunchtime adventure for the golden juice gone wrong.

About eight months ago, realizing I didn’t want my issues to get any worse, I started talking to my pinky toe, hoping to get it to move.

“Come on. You can do it. Just move a little, for me.”

“I believe in you. I believe in self-healing. We can do this.”

Most times I’d talk to my toe in my mind, but every now and then as I put on my socks or as I’d get ready for bed, I’d speak to my toe out loud.

I didn’t see progress, but I didn’t give up. I kept at it as I know the power of self-healing. I’ve cured myself of regular headaches. PTSD. Arthritis. And more. I was able to heal myself with a combination of believing I had the power to do so, making needed lifestyle changes and consistently showing up for myself: mind, body and soul.

Recently (drum roll, please!), I made a huge milestone on my pinky toe healing journey. I can now move it about 50-60% of the time when I ask it to move. Amazing right? After thirty years, my body has healed a bit. And while I still have more growth ahead, I’m happy with my progress and have noticed myself walking with more heel-to-toe symmetry on both my right and left side. Among other things this has alleviated some of my back pain. Thank you, God.

For those of you who aren’t familiar with self-healing, this whole ‘I found healing by asking my pinky toe to show signs of life’ thing may seem bonkers. I get it. If this wasn’t my reality, I’d think it was bonkers too. But I promise you, self-healing is real and you don’t need to be an expert to cure yourself.

The #1 thing you can do if you’d like to heal an ailment is to shift your perspective and believe you can heal. Once you tell yourself you can and believe you can, anything is possible.

There’s tons of research out there on self-healing. I’ll let you find what resonates with you if you’re interested, but I will recommend Amy B. Scher’s book, How to Heal Yourself When No One Else Can: A Total Self-Healing Approach for Mind, Body & Soul if want to learn more about the healing possibilities you hold.

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Sincerely,
Danielle

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use to remind yourself that you have the power to heal, ‘With the peace, belief and purpose I hold, anything is possible.’

PPS – Sometimes we protect ourselves from believing in something because we’re afraid to get hurt if the thing we believe in doesn’t come true. If you’re holding onto fear, grab your pen and journal so that you can work to release it. What are you scared to believe in? What’s your perceived risk in believing in this thing? What’s the worst that could happen if you believed but it didn’t come true? Now what’s the best thing that could happen if you put your fears to the side and started to believe?

I Stopped Wearing Deodorant

Yes, you read that right, I’ve stopped wearing deodorant. For the most part anyways. You may be wondering why I think my pits are any of your business? I’ll explain so keep reading.

Okay…

I’ve been on this ‘eliminate toxins in my life’ kick. Well maybe ‘kick’ is a stretch. I’m just starting with it, but it’s been on my mind for about a year. Does that count? Anyways, after some thinking and conversations with a few special women who swear by their all-natural ways, I decided to give it a whirl. In addition to the health benefits, I was really excited to stop and take a pause to better understand my body and needs.

Afterall, I’ve been wearing deodorant for 25 or so years. I usually shower twice a day (thanks to Florida sun & sweat) and always swipe deodorant on after every shower, even if I’m not going out and am just going to bed. That’s at least 18,200 swipes of deodorant.

When it came time to nix the deodorant, I got curious:

Why do I use so much deodorant? Is this just a habit of mine or is my usage needed? Do I really need it? Do I smell that bad and sweat that much? What does my BO smell like without deodorant?

One of those all-natural women I spoke about earlier told me that for the first few weeks after stopping to use deodorant, your body may go a bit haywire. After a few weeks, it evens out.

She was right.

The first two weeks I was reminded of my angsty pre-teen years. Basically, pungent pits is the best way to explain the smell. Sour. And intense. But I didn’t notice I sweat more than I usually did.

When I knew I was smelling really bad, I wiped my pits off in the bathroom and kept true to my hippie vibes by dabbing a few drops of patchouli under my arms (for the sake of my family, friends, and clients, I hoped it worked. If I was just fooling myself, consider this my formal apology).

After about two weeks more-or-less without deodorant, the smell wasn’t nearly as strong or bitter as it had initially been. Think: less “What’s that molding in the back of the fridge?!” and more, “These bananas have some brown spots… they’re still good, right?” And to this day, I still haven’t seen changes to my sweat patterns.

Since starting this experiment, I’m now wearing deodorant about 4 times a week (I put it on in the morning if I am leaving the house. You’re welcome).

So what’s the point? Well, of course I’d think it was wonderful if you reconsidered what toxins you’re putting in your body, but I view my pungent pit story deeper than that.

As the year opens up for you, what can you reconsider? What can you get curious about? What experiments for a better way of life can you create for yourself? What habits can you challenge and unlearn if needed?

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Sincerely,
Danielle

PS – Here’s an affirmation to remind you that you’re in control of how you understand yourself and the world, I have the power to learn, unlearn and relearn.”

PPS – We do lots of things throughout the day that we don’t realize are habits. Take one day to focus on what you do routinely without a second thought. Write them down. Is there a small change you could make to that routine to make it more beneficial to you? Maybe it’s drinking more water, or spending less time on social media. Whatever it may be, try it out and see if it makes a positive difference for you.

Do Healing Your Own Way

My hubby Ron is a project coordinator for maintenance operations at our local hospital. Yes, I know, he is a total badass. The other week, Ron received an emergency request to build bunk beds (of sort) for the morgue so they could have more space for the bodies. Rest in peace you beautiful souls.

Ron, whose biggest fear is dying… Ron, who has never been inside a room full of lifeless bodies, was asked to enter the morgue to take measurements… And he did. He spent the rest of the day building those beds.

When Ron came home, he was drained and overwhelmed – rightfully so!

I – being the kind and yes, overprotective and loveably overbearing person I am – started an impromptu coaching session.

Me: “That was a lot for you to take on today. Are you taking care of yourself?’’

Ron: “Yes, babe. I’m trying.”

Me: “Good. What exactly are you doing for you? To make sure you’re not letting the heaviness of your job weigh you down?”

Ron: “Today I had an ice cream sandwich and me and the guys were making fun of each other all day.” He chuckled like he remembered one of the jokes he cracked.

Now, I have to admit, my own self-healing go-to’s look nothing like Ron’s – I’m more of a take a long walk, read a book, and relax with an epsom salt bath kind of person. So while part of me wanted to suggest one of these, seeing Ron’s shoulders relaxed and his eyes gleam when he recalled the way he cared for himself told me that satisfying his sweet tooth and picking on his friends was the absolute best remedy for his hard and emotional day.

And with that, I had nothing else to say besides, “Good for you babe. I’m so proud of you.” I had no spiritual guidance to give him. No intuitive guru advice. No ‘here’s an affirmation to help you…’ wisdom. Sure, I could have suggested meditation or a crystal bath or journaling, but Ron didn’t need to do anything different or anything more. He, in my opinion, handled the day and his self-care perfectly.

With that being said, do healing your own way. Whatever feels right to you and helps you through the day, that is what you should be doing.

Ron – Thank you for always opening my perspective and heart. I love you.

Join me in spreading my messages of breaking judgement habits and strengthening intuition even further: forward this blog to a few family members and friendsThe greater the shares, the greater the impact – They can subscribe here.  

Sincerely,
Danielle

PS – It can be overwhelming when the world is telling you one thing but your intuition is telling you another. When in doubt, use this affirmation, “Only I know what’s best for me.

PPS – Do you have enough self-care in your day? If you’re not sure, grab a pen and journal for this activity. For the next few days, right down everything you do that feels like a treat to yourself. This could be watching a guilty-pleasure show, chatting with a friend on the phone, attending a dance class, cooking yourself a nice meal (not because you have to, but because you want to). Was capturing everything you do for yourself easy? If not, maybe you need to do more for you.

Why You Need A ‘No’ To Get A ‘Yes’

I get rejected – a lot. I’d be lying if I told you it doesn’t hurt. Even though I know my worth. Even though I’ve experienced rejection thousands of times: it still stings. When I get a ‘no’ all over again I feel like I’m the last kid left in fifth grade gym class while the jock groans because he has to pick me for his kickball team.

But even though the rejection hurts, I continue to put myself in a position to get rejected again, and again, and again. And here’s why. Without a ‘no’ I’ll never get a ‘yes’. If I don’t play the game, there’s a 0% shot I’ll win – and I want to win. And because I don’t let the discomfort of rejection win, I get to enjoy success.

Here’s a quick look at some of my professional rejections over the last few months:

  • Dozens of journals and magazines rejected my personal essay(s) that I hoped to have published in their respective outlets.
  • I reached out to an author I admire who is a friend of a friend. I was excited for a phone call to ask her some publishing questions (I’m finishing up my memoir on my Dark Night of the Soul experience) and to discuss collaboration opportunities. I never heard back from her.
  • I received several no’s and zero responses to collaboration ideas and podcast pitches; some no’s were even from people I know and have a strong relationship with.

And here’s a quick look at some of my professional successes I’ve had over the last few months:

Without me putting myself out there and risking a bruised ego, I wouldn’t have had the opportunities to celebrate these many successes. 

Remember, nothing worth having comes easy. Go after your dreams and when needed, dust yourself off and try again.

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Sincerely,
Danielle

PS – Here’s an affirmation to use when you’re feeling nervous about getting rejected, “What’s meant to be is already mine.”

PPS – Are you still uncomfortable with the possibility of getting rejected? If so, grab your pen and journal. Oftentimes, we look at rejection as a bad thing, but sometimes it can be a gift in disguise. Think back to a time you were rejected. Maybe you didn’t get the job you wanted or the cute guy you asked out said no. Although in the moment the rejection hurt, did it redirect you? Did you find an even better job or partner? Jot down as many ‘rejection is redirection’ moments as you can to remind yourself that rejections isn’t all bad.

As An Empath, Here’s How I Protect Myself

I’m an empath. I feel the emotions and energies of others deeply, and I can take on their emotions.

Perhaps you’re an empath too?

  • Are you told that you’re too sensitive?
  • Will your mood change drastically when you’re with others?

I consider my ability to tune into others a gift. In my work as an intuitive life coach, I can sense how someone is feeling which allows me to understand them deeper and best support their journey.

The downside of my gift is if I’m not careful, I can soak up others’ energy like a sponge and ‘become them’. If their grumpy, I’m grumpy. If they have anxiety, I have anxiety. Once I absorb someone’s emotion, it’s hard to release it and when I finally do, I’m usually pretty drained. That’s why I work hard to safeguard myself when I’m with others – be it in one-on-one situations or crowds. It’s also why I take steps to release energy that isn’t mine.

If you’ve noticed you’re sensitive to others’ emotions and energies, you may want to try a few of the things I do to protect myself:

  • Before I get my day started, I fill myself up with as many high vibes as I can. I take a walk in nature. I say a prayer of gratitude. I set an intention for health, success and prosperity. I enjoy a cup of tea alone so that I’m in touch with my emotions.
  • If I’m working with someone who is intense with emotion, I picture a translucent purple bubble around me as a way to protect my energy from theirs. Sometimes, I’ll visualize their energy bouncing off my shield.
  • When needed, I call in archangels, my spirit guides and loved ones in spirit to help protect me from lower energies.
  • I have a sage spray I mist a few times into the air (and even over myself) before and after I’m with someone to clear the energy. I also have crystals around me when I work as they help absorb lower energies and can give me an energetic boost. If I’m at home, and need a deep energetic detox, I’ll take an epsom salt bath which is another great way to remove others’ energy.
  • If time and location allows and nothing else seems to be working to release emotions that aren’t mine I meditate, take a nap or go to sleep early so that I’m no longer feeding the energy.

You may connect with some of these, all or even none; but I have to say, at least give them a shot. Your energy is worth preserving.

Join me in spreading my messages of breaking judgement habits and strengthening intuition even further: forward this blog to a few family members and friendsThe greater the shares, the greater the impact – They can subscribe here.  

Sincerely,
Danielle

PS – Here’s an affirmation to help protect yourself from lower energies, ‘I am surrounded by a barrier of love, peace and serenity.’

PPS – Are you struggling with taking on the energies of others? If so, write a protection affirmation or prayer. Customize it to your needs and then post it somewhere you’ll see it often. Be sure to speak the words out loud to amplify its protection.

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