My long-time client Harper is navigating a Dark Night of the Soul. Hi Harper! Thanks for letting me share this beautiful story.
A Dark Night of the Soul is a time of deep spiritual depression and awakening. It’s when our ego is being stripped and the world no longer makes sense the way we knew it. We’re on a journey to understand a deeper sense of self and the world. A Dark Night is typically sparked by something unexpected: a medical diagnosis, the loss of a loved one, a ‘rock bottom’ with drugs or friends; but sometimes it comes on gradually, with no clear trigger.
In Harper’s case, her Dark Night came on slowly and then accelerated when she found the courage to leave a toxic long-term relationship. She’s been single for a few months and has been doing deep work on understanding unhealthy trends in her relationships so the patterns won’t continue to follow her. Good job Harper!
To help her along her Dark Night, Harper’s soul has asked for more alone time and isolation than she’s used to. Harper’s typically a high-energy extrovert who is literally the life of the party, so coming to terms with a mellow vibe has been challenging.
While in her Dark Night, one long weekend on Harper’s calendar didn’t feel right: the baby shower of a dear friend who lived across the country. It was three days jam-packed with group activities: kayaking, shopping, dining out. And while this is typically Harper’s speed, now it wasn’t.
Harper adores the mother and father-to-be, but she couldn’t ignore her soul’s voice: Stay home.
Harper knew staying home was right, but she was scared to tell her friend. She didn’t want anyone upset or disappointed in her, and she feared being a topic of gossip.
For weeks Harper thought about ‘what to do’ (even though she knew) and procrastinated with having this conversation with her friend. Her worry brought on headaches and fatigue several times.
When Harper finally found the courage to reach out to her friend, guess what happened?
The friend responded with care, love and empathy; Harper’s worries had been self-created.
But wait…The story gets even better.
Two days after their conversation, Harper received a message from her friend:
“I know you must be really hurting if you’re not joining in on the festivities so I’m here to see you, give you a hug and shower you with love for the next 24 hours. I’ll be at your place in two hours.”
Harper felt so seen and cared for. It was a needed reminder that she is worthy of true unconditional and healthy love. Her friend showing up for her during this shift in life was exactly what Harper needed; an important milestone on her healing journey.
There’s so much we can learn from this story, but here’s what I took away:
- Worrying and procrastination is unneeded self-sabotage. Be kind to yourself and take action.
- Your soul always knows best.
- Honor yourself where you are. You’ll be rewarded for showing yourself grace and kindness.
- True friends are not only there for you through the good times and hard times, they come and find you (sometimes even go across the country) so they can be there with you.
So now I challenge you. How can you stop procrastinating and take action? How can you honor your soul? How can you be a better friend?
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Dr. Danielle Clark | Psychic Medium
PS – Here’s an affirmation to help you honor where you’re at on your healing journey, “My feelings are real and valid. I’m here to show them love, care and grace.”
PPS – Think about someone who helped you along your healing journey. Grab your pen and paper and jot a note to them. What did they do that helped you? How did they make you feel? As you write, enjoy the feelings this activity evokes: being loved, being accepted, being heard. Use this writing exercise as an opportunity to remember the world is good. If it feels right, consider sending this note of gratitude to the person who helped you.